Hattie’s Stoma Journey: Month 2 After Stoma Surgery

Hattie’S Stoma Journey Month 2 After Stoma Surgery

An amazing month – but now it’s time to slow down...

A tiring second month

I’ve just completed my second month of recovery after having surgery for an ileostomy bag at the end of January this year. I know things are supposed to get easier as the time passes by but it seems this month has been slightly more difficult for me. I’m not sure if it’s because I’ve been so active or that I have had so much positivity thrown my way – which of course are both great things – but it has left me feeling so tired within myself, fighting for any left over energy I may have subconsciously hidden away. All I want to do at this point is sleep.

An amazing month – but now it’s time to slow down

It’s been such an amazing month, I had my own blog, www.morethanyourbag.com, sponsored by SecuriCare Medical and CliniMed, I went to the #GetYourBellyOut Ball, I went to Thorpe Park, I went clubbing, I took a week away on my own, I went swimming, I had frequent nights out with friends and saw so many movies, I reorganised my flat and ended up pulling a muscle – leaving me in hospital with them telling me to SLOW DOWN. And now, I think I need to do just that. I need to take it easy; because I really am feeling the side effects of everything I’ve pushed myself to do.

Giving myself time to deal with what has happened to my body

I enjoyed this month, I really enjoyed it. It proved to myself and so many other people that having a stoma does not have to hold you back, you don’t have to let it affect the things you want to do. But at the same time, it has taken a lot of strength and courage to help me do these things; which adds to what I said before, with this month being a little difficult. It has been difficult both mentally and emotionally as well as physically. I have focused so much on staying positive and maintaining my lifestyle that I haven’t given myself any time to deal with what has happened to my body. I haven’t been respectful of my body and given it enough time to heal. I haven’t actually sat down and talked to someone about how I feel deep down, how it has affected me mentally. Sure, it’s easy to do different things and write about experiences, because it’s something I’ve chosen to do. But writing about the surgery, about how frustrating having a stoma can be? It’s a different story. It’s different because I feel responsible for the feelings of others. Making my family proud and easing their worries has been a priority for me, putting my own feelings aside. Everything I’ve ever written has been 100% truth, but of course, I’m only human. I do have days where I don’t want to leave my bed, I do have days where I feel the world is determined to just come crashing down on me. But I’ve chosen to ignore that, and leave it where I thought it belonged – in my head.

Embracing every emotion – bring on Month 3 Post Stoma Surgery!

Now, as I step into month 3 of my recovery after stoma surgery, I am going to do the exact opposite. I am going to embrace every emotion that my body may feel; good and bad. I am going to admit to myself that, at one point, I was sure my life had been turned upside down. I’m going to show people that there are two sides to every story...but that it’s the combination of both of these which makes me human.

It's important to give yourself time to recover from stoma surgery and deal with the changes to your body

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by Hattie Gladwell

Hattie Gladwell

About the author

An aspiring writer and musician from West Sussex. Currently recovering from Ileostomy Surgery, I am going to be sharing with you my most inner thoughts and personal experiences which can also be found on the website I run, over at http://morethanyourbag.com.

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  • catherine pitman

    I had a perforated bowel last Christmas and had emergency ileostomy surgery I was in itu for 2 weeks. I had lost 4 stone in 4 weeks and couldn't walk without a frame, in January when I came home I needed help to do everything as I was so weak. With the help and determination of my husband I started my struggle. I can honestly say that it is the hardest thing I have done in my life, I can now walk unaided but am having physcio due to muscle deteriation and stairs and getting up and down is a challenge. I cry a lot and do get frustrated at not being able to do the things I want because of the tiredness and would love to be back in work but as I'm a hairdresser I can't stand that long at present, but look forward to when I can. I thought that after surgery I would be the same as before but it isn't. I find it hard as I wasn't told about the inflamitory bowel disease people and how helpful they are, I had so many questions but didn't know who to contact to ask, I still feel on my own really . I know I'm lucky to be here so I shouldn't moan,there's a lot of people loads worse off than me. Anyway listen to your body Hattie mines the same, I have good days and bad days. Good luck for the future. Cath x

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